Today I am thinking about mental illness, mainly my own inner instabilities. When I look at my instabilities it revolves around anger and through my anger the reactionary words come out that cause injury or actions that are injurious to others causing them to feel hurt; when I drill down into the root of what may be bringing this on, ultimately it is because the world is not going as I desire it to be I am attached to an expectation of an outcome. I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, however; I have spent a great deal of time exploring the concept of mental illness, particularly. In the early 1990’s I worked with a Jungian therapist near Buffalo NY….

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Fathers Day 2019

I want to share with you my challenges as a father, growing up i was raised by a guy who I found out later in life was not my real father. This shaped my perspective on my whole life and through it into question, I began to be curious about the abuse, the treatment, the violence. After my divorce I was faced with a question, do I abandon my purpose out of anger and resentment? Or do I do the work to show up the best that I can? It was very very hard, I put my life at risk in 2012 going to Libya; I left the same day the ambassador was killed. After that I took a job in Danbury and tried to settle my spirit, it was hard, I was depressed and in a lot of pain. I need a reason to live, a purpose. So every morning when I would practice I would dedicate my practice to the ones I love, to my purpose, without this “purpose” my life has no meaning., my purpose are my children, my former wife, my girlfriend and partner, my family, my community. You see behind this purpose are lessons I have been taught by the many friends, lovers and partners along the way. One lesson in particular is the lesson of scaffolding, I have learned scaffolding is used to access hard to reach areas safely, I desire to create the scaffolding for my sons that enables them to reach difficult areas of their life safely, to do this is a gift. When I shift my perspective to how I desire to make a difference in the world it really revolves around seeing the areas my children want to gravitate towards, trust the Universe has their back (faith) and then… do my best to provide the support to help Michael and Liam achieve their dreams. I am not doing this in a vacuum; Siobhan (pronounced Shavaun) is the main force behind the success of these two boys, without her they would miss out on a great deal of Love. I learned this lesson from the many women I have surrounded myself with, thank you for your scaffolding to help me see clearer; this is the lesson of scaffolding, support to access those hard to reach areas that give us the best growth possible.

In order to get to this place I had to have an open mind and I always considered “what is it about my past that I dislike?” I use this as a compass and make choices based on having or creating a different experience; I really feel that this may push the boundaries of what we deem “normal”, and have learned to trust my gut, then I ask; why is the loving thing to do? When I practice this I feel then I am being a father. I don’t know for sure because I have wandered this earth without knowing my father, so to those of you who are sailing a ship of similar class, learn to trust your instincts, see the omens and take solace in knowing that you are not alone in this path, then go do the right thing and show up for others, notice how you feel? Happy Father’s Day. 🤗❤️🙏✌️🕉💫

Michael and Liam Paddling

Self Confidence

I’ve been insecure my whole life, never can I make a decision and feel comfortable that I did the right thing; I end up second-guessing myself and then fear sets in which turns into anxiety which turns into suffering. 

 I don’t think I’m alone I think many people are just like me and often go through the same thing,  however I believe there’s too those who are able to have balance naturally they don’t go through this little experience nor do they have this feeling of dread, vis vi anxiety.

What I have found that works in my life; albeit this far; is what I call the grand awakening, it’s only through my seeking was I able to find this, the seeking really is the work, sometimes moving ahead and sometimes moving backward.  Once I became aware of how my thinking was the root of my suffering I figured could change how I think, I could then alter or change my perception or begin to doubt my doubts so to speak. In my yoga practice when I step onto my mat I become centered, I use this practice to become empty making the space to challenge the mind as I struggle to breathe and stay in the energetic flow, the challenge of the mind is the subtle voice that brings me out of a pose. I have learned that the pose has a beginning and an end, same as life.  So what the fuck is the purpose of it all?  Is it to pursue as many “things” as possible?  Is it to fight, Kill, maim, dominate, blame, compare, judge, hate, aquire, own, our own species?  The age old question... however; with a daily practice of focusing and centering we can train our mind to recognize the thought patterns that create our suffering, the thought patterns that create our cancer, the thought patterns that create our suicides, the thought patterns that create our homicides. I no longer stand a victim to my thoughts; as long as I do the work, the work... feel to heal, realize the past is the past, say I’m sorry, say I don’t know, learn to let go, give up the need to be right, surrender attachment, help others, harm no one, forgive, do what contributes to the life you want to live. 

These are the highlights of the path to a greater self confident you, if you master this you can do anything you want but what you want will probably be much different than when you embarked on your journey. Know in your heart you are whole and inside the very essence of your being is love. 


Namaste and thanks for reading.


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Love A life's perspective.

When it comes to love I feel very unlucky.  Always trying to figure out how not to do the wrong thing or say the wrong thing so my partner will accept me, love me and never let me go. How often have I fallen into this pattern, participated in the pattern and been on both ends of it. 

i have been wallowing in sorrow and sadness at the loss of my love; at 54 I am heartbroken and sad, this time however I am as I said 54. While age doesn't make the pain any less what it does allow is the space for breath, the space for choice, the space for a new perspective. Now I have been hurting really bad, in the space between I find myself in inquiry asking a question "why am I suffering?"   Am I suffering because I'm in love? Am I suffering because I had hope for the future that's not going to pan out? Am I suffering because I wanted something a certain way and can't accept it this this way?  

I feel it is too complex to assign any blame to one cause of my suffering as I feel all are legit. Which is why this is so complex, relationships are based on two people's desire to grow together when the desire to grow together either is not there or goes away the relationship is doomed for failure.  This desire is really a choice made by either individual, in order to discuss this please look out for my update to this issue. 

Why I Chose Baptiste Yoga

I was depressed, the time was very dark; two women who I am very close to reached out to me and said “do you want to go to yoga?” My first class was with Phil Urso, he put me in the middle of the room, I had no clue as to the cost or what I was stepping into, it was hot, I couldn’t breathe, help me escape from this, I wanted to run out of the room.  Phil put me in child's pose, I spent a lot of time here praying “Dear God; please remove these thoughts” I began to pray for others and in that first class my head began to empty.  In my first 90 minute class I found peace.  After leaving I thought I need to go back so I went back the next day, body cramping all I could do after class is lay on the couch and hydrate, I fell in love. Yoga began to transform my thinking, my actions, my way of being, the person walking out after class was a different person than the one who walked in; this was just a start.  I then found another yoga studio and met another Baptiste teacher, holy cow in this small town there are so many Baptiste teachers; I began to be curious.  My teachers would talk about Baron this and Baron that... I wanted to find out more so I signed up for level one... in Hawaii.

Level 1 began the transformation process, it opened my eyes to a bigger picture, I found myself in a large group session clearing away the blocks, creating space for healing, in this group of 129 people here I was on the floor in a little ball crying. During this period I was very passionate; (obsessed) about yoga and what it was doing for my mind and body. I began to transform my thinking, my actions, I knew I wanted to share this possibility with others, but first I have some work to do.

The Work as I like to call it is through meditation, and inquiry, two of the Baptiste principles, Baron says in his 40 Days to a Personal Revolution "you can do yoga til your blue in the face and all that you will be is blue in the face" to transform you have to be willing to shift your whole way of being.   I became an awesome ex-husband and defined my personal philosophy towards my former wife, When I married her I said "I loved her"; is love like the trash something that gets tossed out when it doesn't work out? I committed my life to her and just because we were divorced does not change the fact that she is the mother of my children, it does not change the fact that if she needs help am I going to turn my back on her?  This little ditty of philosophy is the bomb, it has saved me from countless hours of confrontation and anguish; our two boys are rocking the world because of Baptiste Yoga and because they are important to me! Many men in the world could use this philosophy.  

I chose Baptiste Yoga to learn how to forgive, it starts in my heart, how to be curious, compassionate, kind and generous.  Learning about the yoga sutras and Hindu mythology has opened my moral world to do the next right thing, to take a stand for those who cannot be a stand for themselves and trust in God i.e. Universe.  I found healing.

I chose Baptiste yoga to learn how to understand meditation, to accept meditation.  For many years I tried to meditate, I stopped over and over because I thought I was not doing it "right", there is no wrong way to meditate.  You sit. You get present to your body.  Get present to your breath. Then you see how long you can maintain this connection, be the observer. 

Meditation led me down the road of inquiry, being present to my thoughts I can connect to what I am afraid of, I can connect to what is important, I can begin to shift and transform.  For those that have known me can see the transformation.  Stirra Sukha, the hard and the soft, (I Like the soft).

Another great reason why I chose Baptiste Yoga is because of what it does to my body, I am 52 years old with a replaced hip and I am in the best shape of my life. Using the 40 Days to a Personal Revolution brought me front and center with my diet, this combined with a regular practice resulted in a 20lb weight reduction. There is some level of pain in my body when I do not practice regularly. Through the practice of Baptiste Yoga I am able to look myself in the mirror and accept the man looking back at me and I was finally able to empty my head into nothingness.  I have dropped my story and am aware of the creative nature that comes up when a story is created and how the energy focused in this area will undermine my ability to share this with other and make a contribution to the world. Am I perfect, by no means but I strive for perfection, it’s good to have a goal.  

If you are curious about Baptiste Yoga, or about transforming your life the hardest part is stepping forward.  When the student is ready the teacher appears.

See you on the Mat.